Relational. Emotion-Focused. Experiential.
It is absolutely possible to feel better, expand your awareness, and gently face what feels unfaceable with a greater sense of calm, confidence, and courage in the midst of what comes today.
My aim is to support and guide you in connecting, moment-to-moment, to the insight your emotions inherently offer so you can move forward in life feeling vital, unencumbered and deeply connected to yourself, the ones you care for, and the world around you. Even the most challenging emotions have the power to inform and inspire healing action and transform our lives.
I carefully listen, authentically respond, and help you break free from the patterns that stand in your way. Together, we would pay special attention to the moment-to-moment experience of your emotions and the here-and-now of your relationships (both inside and outside of the therapy room itself). Through experiencing, change comes.
What Good are Emotions Anyway?
Our emotions are powerful sources of meaning, wisdom, direction, and strength. They are the heart of our resiliency, our assertiveness, our vitality and our joy. Our emotions (and our responses to them) literally shape who we are as people and supply us with the resources to live our lives to the fullest. In fact, our feelings are what make us feel alive. They energize us to meet and cope with life’s challenges, and point us in the best direction in our relationships, our work, and our lives. They bring us closer to the truth inside –and to ourselves and to others.
A Fear of Sorts: But it is common to be unknowingly afraid of feeling the full extent of our emotions (even joy or love), especially if we have suffered more than we can shoulder. So, in an effort to protect us, a “phobia” of feelings develops – a fear of and discomfort with our feelings in their truest form.
1) keep us detached from the wisdom and power inside of us; 2) stifle our ability to authentically share ourselves with others; 3) and distances us from knowing ourselves and what we value in this world. When we push our past and our real feelings away, they go underground, drain us of vitality, and a protective “social” or “looking good” version of ourselves takes shape. For some, this strategy works for a while, but eventually our feelings resurface as:
- fear, anxiety, worry, restlessness, hyperactivity, insomnia
- depression, poor self-esteem, lack of motivation
- loss of interest, procrastination, emptiness
- relationships problems, irritability, angry outbursts
- edginess, "numb-ness", difficult thoughts and inner experiences
- headaches, stomach problems, tension, teeth grinding
- chronic fatigue, sexual difficulties, hypertension and much more
Through psychotherapy, these painful, private experiences soften or completely resolve.